It’s common to speak of the Five Languages of Love – physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time, all good things, yet when I read them again recently it struck me that an important one was missing – boundaries.
In the last fifty or so years there has been a pursuit of ‘free love’, a love which could easily have included any of the above, but a love that sought to break and remove all boundaries and taboos, the result of which is evident for all to see.
True love provides boundaries – that was one of the reasons God gave the law in the Old Testament for the full and beneficial functioning of society, not as a kill-joy. The abandonment of such boundaries leads to problems in marriages, families and society, indeed their very breakdown.
True love means there will be things that are out of bounds and destructive of true love.